Political Depolarization / Active Listening / Core Techniques of Active Listening
Active listening is not just listening to someone speak—it’s the process of being present, attentive, and responsive to what’s being said. Whether you’re speaking with a colleague, friend, or loved one, the art of active listening can improve relationships, avoid misunderstandings, and establish trust. The following are the core active listening techniques that can make you a more thoughtful and effective communicator.
The foundation for active listening starts with being fully present. Put aside distractions like your phone, close your computer, or silence alerts. Physically show you are listening—make eye contact, nod occasionally, and face your body towards the speaker. These nonverbal cues let the other person know you’re interested in what they have to say.
Demonstrating that you’re actively listening can be done through subtle verbal and nonverbal signals. Use small affirmations like “I see,” “Go on,” or “That makes sense” to encourage the speaker. Your tone should remain calm and open. Avoid interrupting—allow the speaker to finish their thoughts before responding.
One of the most powerful active listening tools is paraphrasing what you heard. This means that not only did you listen to the words, but you also understand the meaning behind the words. You might respond with something like, “So what I’m hearing is that you’re upset because the timeline on the project wasn’t clear.” Paraphrasing guarantees understanding and gives the speaker a chance to clarify if needed.
Active listening involves asking questions—not to deflect or counter, but to gain deeper understanding. Open-ended questions prompt the speaker to share more information. Instead of, “Are you upset?” say, “How do you feel about what happened?” This encourages a more thoughtful and explanatory response.
One of the common hindrances to active listening is preempting or preparing your response beforehand while the other person is still speaking. Learn to be patient. Let the speaker fully express themselves before you dissect and answer. Avoid offering unsolicited opinions or advice unless asked—occasionally people simply need to be heard and understood.
When it is your turn to speak, speak on purpose. Hear what the other person said, not what you want to say. Validate their feelings, validate their experience, and offer support if needed. Even when you disagree, active listening allows you to respond empathetically and sensibly, rather than defensively.
Learning the basic skills of active listening is a skill that can be practiced, but it’s one of the most valuable skills you can acquire in personal and professional relationships. When people feel profoundly heard, they become more inclined to open up, collaborate, and connect. By simply being present, inquisitive, and nonjudgmental, you can transform your conversations and build stronger, deeper relationships.
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